Wednesday, January 19, 2011

"Criminal Minds" is to TV as Victoria is to _____?

It is a commercial break during my favorite tv show "Criminal Minds".  Some may find this show upsetting as the whole premise is the workings of the mind of the criminal, to me it is fascinating.  For years now nearly all my favorite tv programs are of the same genre...Law & Order (all the spinoffs as well as the original), CSI, etc. you get the idea.  As I was watching tonight it came to me why.  During high school I loved psychology and criminology, when I went to college my major was psychology.  It had been my hope to pursue this line of work - the ins and outs of people's thoughts and actions.  I think if I would have followed this dream through to the end, that the line of work in these shows although graphic and disturbing, seemingly unimaginable, would be where I would've like to have gone with my career.

My life now is light years away from that dark area of study, I work as an office administrator, try as I might I try to keep things in order - try to befriend everyone in my office - try to do a good job so I can provide for my daughter and self.  Nothing in what I do as part of my job is even similar to this subject matter that fascinates me.  Maybe it was not my destiny to actually do what I thought I was supposed to do.  Perhaps the grim reality of living the life as a person analyzing criminal behavior would have been more than I could cope with.

Success (as it relates to a person's job) is not in the amount of money you make, it's not in fame or recognition, it's not about what "it" can get for you.  I am successful, I do a good job although there is always room for improvement.  Essentially I like what I do.  Of course, there are tasks in my duties that I like less than others (I hate hounding people to pay bills).  For a long time, I felt unsuccessful because I had set such high expectations for myself and let those float away. 

But...and here's the clincher...everything that replaced the dream of a career in psychology, are things I wouldn't trade now no matter what.  Even the cruddy parts.  I became a mom instead and honestly that was one job that was definitely not on my list of things "to do".  It was just something that was not part of what I thought I would be.  Well guess what?  Life threw me a curve ball, but I think I still knocked it out of the park.  My daughter, Victoria, although horribly spoiled by no fault of my own (ha ha ha) is a good person.  Yes she is self-absorbed, yes she is slob by my standards which is a source of our biggest grievances towards each other, but she is a good person.  And really, what more defines success than that?

1 comment:

  1. Your pulling me in on these stories. YES! I agree, you are very good at what you do and the best part about it is you always have a smile while you are doing it. " Goodtimes".

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