My daughter can push my buttons by simply doing nothing and that is the worst thing. As a parent, I have always tried to do anything and everything I can to help make things easier, better, faster, and bigger for my daughter. After 20 years the realization that everything I did was not the best route to take when trying to raise an independent person. I often feel taken advantage of as well as her personal unpaid and unthanked servant.
How do I change this path? Feeling this way and being angry, blowing my top, are not the ways I want to be and behave.
Hey Darlin'
ReplyDeleteyou just have to relax, and know that you have done the best you could at the time as far as the past goes...
I know I still see my daughter as my little "Peeper" 5 years old, it's really hard to sit back and not say something when you think they are making a mistake, or to not do exactly what they want or say they need at the time.....But sometimes I think the best thing we can do is let them learn some of life's lessons, and just be there for them when they are ready to listen...
Love to you myLady I feel your pain
I know you are right. All I would like is a thank you every now and again, or her volunteer to help out with something. When someone says they don't have time to wash a skillet they used because they are texting for an hour and watching Jersey Shore or whatever, it is just aggravating.
ReplyDeleteI also realize that I have let her take advantage of me, because I follow behind and pick up the messes or drop what I am doing to drive her someplace or pick her up. But when I have done these things it is because she is my daughter and I am trying to "be a mom", it hurts that my efforts are received with muttered words, rolling of eyes and silence.
Hey there sweet lady. Being a mom is tough. We spend our lives defining ourselves as being a mom. We take pride in all we do for our kids. It was so painful when my relationship with my girls began to crumble. Although we are now closer, there are still times I am walking on egg shells.
ReplyDeleteYou must remember we love because we want to. We can't love expecting something back. We give in love. Sometimes they are feeling love and just simply cannot express it. It's hard trying to learn how to be your own person and remain a daughter.
You just love her as only you can and find your self worth, all your love in the Lord. Let Him take each breathe and turn it into beauty.
One day she will look back just as we do today and see all you have done and still do today. She loves her momma. Live your life not for others, but for the Lord before you. He not only has a way of changing us, but those around us=)
Love ya